How do we enter intentional community?
If this were seven years ago,
I’d say that I don’t like
because I was bad at it.
White women don’t like
to be bad at things,
and we’re typically
defensive to feedback.
thrive in unexpected
and we don’t see ourselves in fantasies
of walking slumber party friendships.
We need space
and link up again,
with clear asks
in check ins,
Seven years ago
I didn’t know about introverts,
and I didn’t know I was one.
White women are slow to
and we bring our
self confusion into
groups we’re a part of.
trauma takes what you’re confused about
and hides the question in your skin.
you get triggered without asking why,
because you’re too busy thinking no.
What does intentional community require?
At least self knowledge.
Better, self knowledge we can communicate.
Even better, self knowledge we can use.
an environment that can hold boundaries,
an internal life that can be a refuge,
relationships built on honest assessments,
and permission to start again.
Hopefully, with more information,
and enough graciousness.